“I found out I had cancer on the day that it was our first date.” Lauren’s story

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Published: 14 February 2025
Lauren was diagnosed with stage 4 Hodgkin lymphoma in 2019. She talks about relationships and shares what she might have put on a dating profile.

Meet Lauren

Lauren, a young woman with long dark brown hair sat on a sofa.

When I was 25, I’d experienced symptoms of pins and needles down the side of the right side of my arm. I thought it was a muscle ache and so I ignored it until Christmas 2018. Then my mum was like, you have got to go to the doctor.

They did blood tests and scans. They did chest x rays and in 2019 did a CT scan and realized I had cancer.

Learn more about Hodgkin lymphoma.

"I was speechless, I just didn't think that I would have cancer."

In this video, Lauren talks more about the support her partner Danny provided during her diagnosis and treatment. She shares the type of dating profile that she might have created after she was diagnosed with cancer and her advice for others.

“One of the challenges of dating with cancer was just knowing if they’re going to be there for you or run away.”

A young woman with long dark brown hair holds a certificate showing she has finished cancer treatment.

My diagnosis and chemo were the most challenging years of my life. On the flip side they were the best years for learning the most about myself.

I am in a 6-year relationship with a guy called Danny who I met before I was diagnosed with cancer. Danny stuck with me throughout, which has been amazing.


“If you are thinking about dating or you have been dating, then start with yourself first."

If you are going through treatment, be kind and patient with yourself.

Think about do you feel ready to be able to take on someone else in your life right now? If you don’t, you just need to put yourself first a little bit longer and that’s okay.

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